The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

This weekend, I came to a realization that it’s time for me to let go of a lot.

I have noticed over the past few weeks that coming home to my apartment was a source of stress.

To be honest, I felt it for a while now in all 3 apartments I lived in here in California but found it both easy to ignore and find things to blame: whether it was my job at the time, or apprehension of the uncertainty of my future, especially in the online space.

It may sound silly, but those two excuses sure can find an answer to almost every question and I’m sure any blogger can relate.

I am also not the cleanest person around. It’s just how I am – but I also think the aforementioned stress I feel would keep me from really keeping things tidy. I’d clean, sure, but I never felt better from doing so.

On top of that, I have a housecleaner that comes every other week to keep things in order {i need her, money SO BEYOND WELL SPENT, it’s a non-negotiable}. I have noticed that after she leaves, though it’s cleaner, I still don’t feel better.

This weekend, I finally had an epiphany….

…which is ironic because it’s something Erik has been telling me for almost five years now.

But I had an epiphany that my apartment – and office since I work from home – is a source of stress because there is so much nonsense in here I am holding onto. I’ve always found a place for things {or worse, an excuse} but it’s all completely unnecessary. It’s not that I was messy that was causing me stress, it’s that there’s too much energy with everything I have & it can only be transferred. I strongly believe that.

I came home to tell Erik my realization & he was like ….’yeah i know, this is what I’ve been saying for years’. I really should start listening to him more lol.

I started a preliminary cleanse and just threw things away in my line of sight. If I picked something up and it didn’t make me feel just 100% rad, I got rid of it. Interestingly enough, I found I threw away 99% of it all.

Anything from Dallas, I want out. Absolutely no exceptions.

Anything from my past, I want out. I want where I live & work to energize the present.

Anything that’s a duplicate of anything {it’s amazing how many of these I had, esp from traveling and forgetting things}, I want out.

I do a lot of things in my life by the fuck yes or no method. If the answer to anything, ANYTHING, isn’t a fuck yes, then it’s a no. Maybe always = no in my book. Life’s too short, you know?

So I applied that thinking in my preliminary cleanse yesterday & Saturday night. My place isn’t where I want it yet, but it does feel a bit more clear than it ever has.

Yesterday as I was going over to Erik’s, I ran into my good friend & neighbor, Corrin. As usu when we talk, we go on and on and on and she’s one of my favourite people in the world. I told her about everything & my new plan for my apartment and basically saying I’m only keeping things that make me feel good & finally letting go of everything else. Immediately, she told me I have to read the Marie Kondo book “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” & gave me hers to borrow.

I’ve always known the concept of it, and would loosely apply it but never really made true process. I went over to Erik’s, book in hand {thx so much Corrin! love you}, & two-ish maybe three glasses of red wine later, read my merry way through, and it very much opened my eyes.

To be honest, when I first heard about this book & method years ago, I thought it was overrated. Do I really need to be told how to clean? Actually, I probably do but that’s beyond the point… This book is so much more than that. There were points in this book that I REALLY needed to hear. It struck home to me {& a lot of people who read the book! It’s a best seller!}, made me realize exactly what I was doing & why it just needed to go.  It made me realize exactly why I always felt stressed. Again, reading this book though is like listening to Erik – it’s legit all things he has been telling me for years.

I fully understand how important it is to cleanse my space. It goes further from “being clean”, but it affects your personal life, your professional life, & everything in between. There have been feelings / stresors I’ve been struggling with which I strongly believe it’s because of everything I’m physically holding on to {especially in such a small space – again, energy can only be transferred, remember}.

SO- starting today, I am tidying the fuck out of my apartment / office!

I’m actually VERY excited.  I’m making this post to let you guys know that I’ll be brb’ing this week while I cleanse & tidy the f out of my life. Erik & I both think it will be beneficial to my blog & brand, as well since this is where I work {not content wise, just mental / vibe wise}. That said, per usu you can find me on the gram! @shannonsilver 🙂

One thing I should also mention is before I got everything started this weekend, I got a smudge stick & cleared the air. I thought it was important to do to cleanse the energy and mark this new start. It was my first time to do it, & I 100% feel the difference already. I have the same stick that I plan on using throughout the process. Would you like a post on this? Let me know.

If you have any tips, please please please let me know!! I already got SO many incredible tips & support this morning today from instastories – all from people who have said this method has changed their life so please please please keep them coming!!! I’ll also do a whole rundown of everything I learned, my personal take of it, and photos of the finished project. I feel like it’s a mix of getting rid of clutter & feng shui. It’s only been 36 hours but I already feel better so I can’t wait to get the whole thing done. I actually feel revitalized.

Also, if you have any reccs on shelters or places to donate in SF, let me know. I’ll do some research on the subject.

Okay g2g throw things away & tidy up! See you soon xo

Shannon

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  • Nicole Marie

    Great post! Honestly I just need to get into a mode where I am sick of looking at everything, thats when I get rid of the most.

  • Jamie Lynn

    Hey girl hey! First I love the Saved By The Bell vibes I’m getting with the cover photo!!? 😁 I honestly wish I had the time to go through every room and start throwing stuff out. It would probably take me at least a whole month to do my small house. However, my husband gets like 5 weeks of vacation time a month so he is going to have to start doing this for me!!!

  • This is so helpful! I am in the process of going through everything in my home, and am definitely looking forward to tidying things up!

  • Always good to let go & tidy up!

  • Wow your blog is beautiful~ Good luck on your tidying journey!

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